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    Discussion in 'Over Age 35' started by Raleoxilevz, Oct 2, 2012.

    1. Raleoxilevz

      Raleoxilevz Well-Known Member

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      As most of you know I work from home, but from time to time maybe twice a year or so I will go to a client meeting. This AM we met at the main office in Manhattan.

      There we met with the client (all suits, all executives) as we were speaking to the architect for the design layout of the DC out in Rollie, we had to engage the low level cabling lead focal.

      He was a Local 3 guy, big dude, very loud, confident and quite obnoxious. He was very adamant about what his team would do and not do and rightfully so.

      One thing I notice he was intimidating the people in the room, due to his sheer size. Most who know me know I curse a lot, yet I will not curse at work (I don't eat and sh!t in the same plate) especially at a client meeting. But this guy was cursing up a storm and again being as intimidating as he can be. I was thinking to myself, man you talk to me like that out of this office I would knock you on your ass!

      Anyway, when I start to speak, first he interrupts me and then curses at me. The convo went like this:

      Me: Well Mr. XX when I inherited this project I was told the raise floor was to be la...
      Him: I don't care what the f'ck you were told my guys are not touching a G0dd@m thing because the design is incomplete


      I put my hand out in front of me and said "First of all, don't address me in that manner nor tone, we are here to meet the clients expectations and by you arguing with me is not helping the issue. So either you help mitigate this situation by providing a solution or get us someone who will.

      So he gets upset, says something about getting his manager and he walks out of the room.

      OK here is the part why I say "why can't I keep my mouth shut"...

      The rest of the executive were like, wow that is one big dude, wouldn't want to meet him in a dark alley yada yada yada

      Because I was already upset at the way he was talking to everyone, I said to them. (And honestly I don't know why these words came out of my mouth) "Man if met that mother f'ker in the streets I would beat the f'cking sh!t out of him"

      Right after I said it I thought to myself WTF??? Did I just say that? damn!

      Most just smiled, but you could feel the awkwardness in the room.

      When I was walking to catch the train back home one of the Senior Project Executives called me on my cell and told me, What was that all about? I told him the guy just got on my last nerve, he said please don't let that happen again we represent the client and we need to conduct ourselves in a professional manner regardless of the circumstances.

      So yup he is upset at me, although this f'cking guy was bad mouthing all of us including him. Also if it wasn't for me we would have never gotten an agreement on the design because the manager who came to speak to us, worked extremely well with us.

      End of rant/
       
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    3. 32chevy

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      Why can't I keep my mouth shut?

      Oops!!! Yeah John, you didn't keep that one reeled in. But it's impressive that it took this long for a slip up to occur. And you were worried that you were growing up
       
    4. baletki

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      Why can't I keep my mouth shut?

      What you said to the guy I feel was reasonable, you were really just telling him to show a little respect which I think is 100% fair. As for telling everyone you'd beat his a$$ if he did that to you out on the street, now thats just priceless. Probably not the place for it but awesome none the less.
       
    5. emininojiq

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      Why can't I keep my mouth shut?

      Yeah I know Pam, but man he was so f'cking obnoxious!

      LOL, guess I still have a long way to go
       
    6. suighja

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      Why can't I keep my mouth shut?

      Stupid is is stupid does I could have lost my job and that idiot would still be working as he is in a union.

      I am sending an email to the rest of the folks that were at the site with an apology for my behavior.
       
    7. herunder88

      herunder88 Well-Known Member

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      Why can't I keep my mouth shut?

      hey, we're all human and do things like that. I've done the same kind of things, may have done and said the same thing in your situation. The client may have gone back and even said "hey, that dude has our back on this"
       
    8. crormaSoila18

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      Why can't I keep my mouth shut?

      Given the guy's behavior, I think your response was entirely appropriate and reasonable for the situation. Perhaps your comment about beating him up in the street was a little salty, but you were just venting after dealing with someone who was over the top obnoxious and abusive.

      The guy needed someone to get up in his face a little bit and you took it to him. I hate bullies. Good for you.
       
    9. Korporalegq

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      Why can't I keep my mouth shut?

      Maybe it was wrong, but in a weird way, you might have earned a little respect from him. This story is not over. You can still hold your own without crossing the line.
       
    10. emininojiq

      emininojiq Well-Known Member

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      Why can't I keep my mouth shut?

      i don't think an email is a good idea
      as long as there is no documentation, they can all pretend it never happened, they saw nothing etc. if they choose

      you put it in writing and they have to acknowledge they got it and that it happened
       
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