Parents please help

All -

I have not been active on this forum for a few years now - long story. My post is not about me however. My wife and I were in a car accident recently - we were broad-sided by a 17 yr old boy driving over 90 mph on a residential street. We all escaped serious injury. Immediately after the accident a car load of the kid's friends pulled up - the kid driving the car that hit us threw a small bag into the car that had pulled up. While we were waiting for the cops and paramedics to arrive we found two used needles in the debris field. The kid who hit us had a body that was not consistent with a 17 yr old boy - if that makes sense. My wife and I were driving to the same gym that the kid was coming from - after I found the needles I asked the kid if he had been at the gym and he said he had. It is possible from all of the circumstantial evidence that the kid is using some type of illegal drug - I suspect some type of steroid. I am not making any judgements here regarding gear used by adults - however as a parent I feel compelled to at least discuss the circumstances and what I found at the scene with the boy's father who called me recently to apologize for his son's driving. The "evidence" in summary:

- We saw the driver toss a small bag into the car driven by his buddies. The bag looked like a shaving kit.
- We recovered two used needles at the scene of the accident.
- The kid had the body of an adult body builder
- The kid was driving over 100 mph on a side street where the speed limit is 35 mph

Am I over reacting? If it were your son would you want me to call you to at least make you aware of what I found?

Thank you for any advise on this -

MM

EDIT: The driver's car was going 90 mph when he hit us - he was driving over 100 mph prior to that. The skid marks confirmed the rates of speed. Just did not want to sound inconsistent with the facts.

 

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TBH, I'd keep my nose out of another family's business.

Driving at 100mph has nothing to do with gear but everything to do with being a young, teenage ass-hole.
You only have suspicions, not proof. There's a chance, however slim, that the pins were nothing to do with steroids. You could be making accusations which turn out to be false. If I were the boy's father, you accused him and there turned out to be a perfectly reasonable explanation, I wouldn't be happy with you.

 

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Understood - thanks for the reply

 

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I'd agree with the advice given. I'd worry about the wreck and let the rest go.

 

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I don't really see how a teen going 100 is "evidence" of steroids. Maybe he was, maybe he wasn't, point is your evidence is flimsy at best and you're opening a can of worms you probably don't want to

 

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I am not a parent but just to play devil's adocate, if your suspisions are right and you do tell his father it may end up saving the kid from the effects of what he may be using down the road. its tough but if you feel strongly about it you may be better to act rather than not act and wish you had

 

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Yeah that is why I quoted the word evidence in my post.... I guess there is no connection between extremely risky behavior and steroid use. My bad. I have heard enough here. Thanks all. This post can be closed.

 

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Thanks you Nick - much appreciated.

 

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If it was my kid I'd appreciate it if someone told me of their suspicions. Just be careful how you phrase it. Don't want to sound like you're saying you know their son is on it, just that you saw this and thought they might want to look into it. Using that at such a young age could have negative rammifications on his health later in life.

 

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OP, sorry to hear about the accident and no offense but I'm going to move this to the Misc section of the OV35 sub-forum.

Take care
cgc