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    Discussion in 'General Chat' started by herunder88, Sep 10, 2012.

    1. herunder88

      herunder88 Well-Known Member

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      This has been bugging me for a while and I'll do my best to keep it short and concise.

      Me and her together for just under 4 years. Lived together for the last 6 months and had a dog which she doted on. We had had many small break ups and her not coming back came as a massive shock which I didn't have the experience to deal with.Reason was last Summer she found a text on my phone and we spilt up about a month later after a nasty argument, text definitely a contributing factor although there were other reasons (financial being one). She hooked back up with an ex at least for a few months, possibly up until now. I have no idea tbh but they are both off facebook.Had to re-home the dog (through here actually) which broke my heart.

      To be honest the split tore me a new one until at least early part of this year, the old story, didn't realise how much I loved the girl till' she went. The break-up started off quite amicable but it turned nasty, as it often does for a variety of reasons and I ended up blocking her on facebook by about August where she stayed blocked until January this year.

      Anyway, back to point. When we first moved into the flat, she lent me £300 to pay the deposit, which to be fair I really needed to do as I was desperate to get out of my house and she was good enough to give me. When we broke up (it was amicable at first) I did say to her I would give this £300 back when I eventually moved out.

      Fast forward to January this year, I unblocked her on FB (thought it had been long enough) and as she had heard I was moving out, she messaged me almost straight away (after sending a friend request) asking for the £300 I owed her.
      TBH it took me aback as there were no niceties really, just a short simple "can I have my £300 back please, you did say." Bearing in mind at this stage I had rehomed my dog about 3 days earlier I told her to go do one. We actually kept chatting for a little while, then she deactivated her account a few weeks later and hasn't been back on since.

      I've felt bad about this for a while. Yes it cost me £300 in dog food for the time I had him postbreak up, but in all fairness I did block her on FB and I'm pretty sure she thought I was seeing someone else.

      I am in the position now to pay this money back, I can do it via my old girl who still sees her. I figure A) It would make me feel better and B) Show her I sorted myself out a bit as I was in a bad financial way when we broke up.

      I am not expecting her to come running back to me as a result of this money, rather I am a bit gutted it went so sour and bitter and knowing her me oweing her that money would deffo make her like that.

      All opinions welcome and sorry for the ramble.

       
    2. jailynn24hb

      jailynn24hb Well-Known Member

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      Would you pay an ex money back after a bad break up?

      No!!

      My ex done the dirty on me and then wanted 200 quid back off me for some stuff she bought me!

      I told her to go and fuk herself!
       
    3. Greg

      Greg Well-Known Member

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      Would you pay an ex money back after a bad break up?

      Depends - was she a prostitute?
       
    4. herunder88

      herunder88 Well-Known Member

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      Would you pay an ex money back after a bad break up?

      Havent read it all cos its a hugggeee mate but:

      I split with an ex oweing her about a grand (she paid my rent for uni when my loan was fvcked up).

      Paid her back every penny though, I borrowed it so I paid it back. I think you should do the same tbh.
       
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      crormaSoila18 Well-Known Member

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      Would you pay an ex money back after a bad break up?

      Your word is your word imo. If you owe her the money fair and square then pay up. If she just wants it because she thinks you owe her then tell her to do one.
       
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      Would you pay an ex money back after a bad break up?

      a swift round house kick to the tits will suffice in this situation

      rep me later
       
    7. Capone

      Capone Well-Known Member

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      Would you pay an ex money back after a bad break up?

      this

      didn't read the whole post yet though, will do

      unless she's done something completely cnutish to you then i can't see why you don't still owe her the dough
       
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      suighja Well-Known Member

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      Would you pay an ex money back after a bad break up?

      I do owe her it, no doubt about it. It's just it went so fukin nasty after I had to rehome the dog and struggle being out of work post break up it proper tainted my view of her. Plus she cudnt have picked a worse time to ask me for it back.

      BUT, in all fairness that really wasn't her fault. **** it I'm erring to just paying her back.

      I know it's a long post, there was no way I could condense it more though the Cliffs notes would be like this;

      Previously lovely bird, turned into a complete ****, but I do owe her money for a situation I was desperate to get of at the time.

      I just don't want to pay her back then get mugged off next time I see her and think to myself what a fool I was.
       
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      Would you pay an ex money back after a bad break up?

      Last edited by digitalis; Today at 06:05 PM.
       
    10. defelqy

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      Would you pay an ex money back after a bad break up?

      If it was lent to you then really you should pay it back. If not then your word is worth nothing.
       

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