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    1. crormaSoila18

      crormaSoila18 Well-Known Member

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      blah, female misc. Ended an almost 7 year relationship this weekend. Cliff notes:
      - got together in college the summer before my senior year
      - was awesome for a while
      - did the real long distance thing while he finished his senior year (he's a year younger)
      - did the 60 mile long distance thing for 2 years
      - lived together for 2 years
      - then I got into grad school in PA and he had no interest in moving
      - kind of knew it was over then, but dragged it out for another year even though I knew he wanted to settle down, have kids, not move around whenever I got a cool job or the mood struck me, etc.


      I know I'm the one who chose to break things off, but **** it still feels like someone's stabbing me in the chest/throat repeatedly. And I know it will be the best thing for both of us in the long run, but it feels really bad right now. I was OK for about a day, till I heard one too many breakup songs on the radio, and saw him change his facebook relationship status. Then his mom posted a mildly passive aggressive comment about wishing she could protect her children from pain :-/. I just can't see the light at the end of the tunnel right now, and I feel terrible...and I hope he realizes I feel pain too, even though I made the move to end things. Feeling old and lonely :-/. Hope I can find some people to relate.
       
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      baletki Well-Known Member

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      how long before it gets better?

      Yeah I can relate, girl did this to me once. You feel bad yet it was your idea? I don't understand this at all. You got what you wanted
       
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      how long before it gets better?

      Never... It just hurts a little less each day
       
    4. crormaSoila18

      crormaSoila18 Well-Known Member

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      how long before it gets better?

      you drunk?
       
    5. emininojiq

      emininojiq Well-Known Member

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      how long before it gets better?

      It is a self inflected wound. Why do it at all if all that happens is everyone ends up hurt?
       
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      how long before it gets better?

      7 yrs is a long time being in a relationship. It doesn't matter who breaks up with who or why...it's never easy period. It's too soon and the feelings are still fresh.

      It get's easier with time. I wish I could add more, but I can't.

      Good luck.
       
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      how long before it gets better?

      because it's my entire adult life? Because I care about him and his family? But ultimately, he wanted to settle down and have kids, and I didn't, so what was the sense for either of us? You think just because one person chose to make the move, you think that means they don't care?
       
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      how long before it gets better?

      I don't mean to sound horrible at all. I just mean that you pulled the trigger as it were. I don't understand why you are so upset since it was 100% up to you.
       
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      how long before it gets better?

      This thread is sad. It makes me think about how my ex ended it, and that implies he probably wasn't AS upset as I was/am.

      /freshwounds

      And to think he said "I love you" first pshhhh.
       
    10. remstation

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      how long before it gets better?

      well said. I am certain it hurts more to be dumped than to do the dumping.
      You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to SultanaK again.
       
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